Let’s talk about suicide - even if it’s uncomfortable
September 10 marks World Suicide Prevention Day and we at Just Us have an important message to share: Please be open to having difficult and uncomfortable conversations with the people in your life. It's crucial that we approach this growing issue with empathy and compassion.
Take the time to familiarize yourself with the warning signs, as they can often be subtle. Remember, anyone can be at risk—suicide affects people from all walks of life.
Suicide Warning Signs
If you're experiencing suicidal thoughts, you may also notice certain behavioural or physical changes that signal something is off. These changes might be subtle, but it's typical to notice several signs rather than just one or two. Keep in mind that everyone is unique and may react differently to these emotions and thoughts.
Non-verbal indicators may include:
withdrawing socially
a persistent drop in mood
not maintaining personal hygiene or appearance
uncharacteristically reckless behaviour
change in diet, rapid weight change
distracted
angry
not sleeping
alcohol or drug abuse
giving away sentimental or expensive possessions
Indirect verbal expressions may include:
feeling hopeless
failing to see a future
believing they are a burden to others
saying they feel worthless or alone
talking about their death or wanting to die.
This is not an exhaustive list; listen to your instincts.
Is Suicide Selfish?
We get asked this question a lot, and the answer is no—suicide is not selfish. When someone is battling a mental illness, their ability to think clearly, feel hope and make logical decisions can be deeply affected. Mental illness changes your perception, so expecting someone with suicidal thoughts to "just seek help" overlooks the fact that their thinking isn't grounded in the kind of healthy logic we often take for granted.
The stigma around suicide, with people labeling it as selfish, wrong or shameful, can make it even harder for those struggling to open up. When society frames these thoughts in a negative light, it sends the message that expressing these feelings will lead to judgment, making it more difficult for those struggling to reach out for support.
How Can You Help?
Mental health challenges touch nearly everyone at some point, whether through personal experiences or those of friends, family, or colleagues. We all struggle. It’s important to check in with those around us. Here are a few questions you can ask to start a conversation:
How are you feeling today?
Have you been getting enough sleep?
What are you looking forward to?
How are things going for you?
What’s been on your mind lately?
Are you okay? Can I do anything to support you?
Having these conversations regularly can create a safe space for people to express their feelings. Offering this kind of support helps to show that unhealthy coping mechanisms like isolation, violence or substance abuse aren't the only options. Instead, by being present and listening, you can help someone navigate through their pain.
Small Acts of Kindness Can Make a Difference
A recent study found that sending simple notes of care can reduce the risk of suicide. Why does this work? People felt:
Cared for and valued,
Hopeful about the future,
Reminded of positive memories and the fact that they are loved.
So, why not send a message or a note to someone who might be going through a tough time? A simple act of kindness could make a big difference in someone's day.
If you're unsure how to help someone you care about, feel free to reach out. We're here to provide guidance, free of charge, to point you in the right direction.